fulfill

happy sunday evening:)

this fall has been the absolute most perfect fall i have ever experienced since living in idaho falls.

normally that in between, crispy-cool season lasts all of a measly 2 weeks,

and then we're on to piles and piles of snow and bitter wind from halloween to april fools!

but not this year.

nope!
this year i've been in refreshing fall heaven,
and have taken the liberty of crunching a few fallen leaves beneath my feet a time or ten:)
oh it is wonderful, wonderful to me
*sigh

my deep affinity for my family relations class, and the knowledge i envelop from it,
 grows with each passing week.
and i'm happy to report,
this week was no different
:)

we all have needs.
things
people
places
feelings
actions
that are crucial to uphold our mortal existence at the most basic level,
and also,
to foster fulfillment
in mind
body
and soul.

maslow is famous for his "hierarchy of needs".
his theory is that our needs come in all
shapes
and
sizes
and follow a pyramid of importance.
meaning that:
our most basic, bottom level needs must be met before any other needs can subsequently be nourished.

so what happens when some of these inherent needs we have aren't met?
where do we turn?
what do we do???
the answers to these questions are different for everyone.
some turn to:

addiction
unhealthy relationships
obsessions
food
shopping
God
 or maybe even
homosexual desires and behavior
in order to meet and fulfill these deep, compelling, unmet needs.

in watching the video, "understanding same-sex attraction" by family watch international,
 (*link provided below..)
i feel i've come to a deeper, clearer understanding
and a place of more profound peace,
in regards to those who experience same-sex attraction (SSA)

the documentary provides 6 basic potential factors that could contribute to an individual experiencing feelings of same-sex attraction.
they are as follows:
1) wounded gender identity - being severely rejected within their own gender
2) bullying
3) father hunger - absent, abusive, or distant father
4) mother confusion - controlling/manipulative/atypical mother role in the family
5) inappropriate touch - either abuse or not ever being touched at all
6) pornography

as i continued to attentively and compassionately watch the video,
my mind kept having these thoughts about SSA . . .
"this is another way people feel empty and are trying to fill that hole within themselves"
"it's ALL about meeting needs!"
"it's these deeper, unmet needs that are the start of it all."
and in effort to take care of themselves,
to fill needs,
and feel full,
some individuals turn to SSA.

 i do not claim to understand even the smallest amount of same-sex attraction.
nor do i claim that these ideas apply to everyone who experiences this.
it is something i have never experienced myself and do not know firsthand by any means.
however.
i am saying that,
i feel this could be true in some cases.
these ideas r e s o n a t e with me.
speak to my soul
and seem
subsequently . . .
soothing.
i believe we're all searching.
searching and seeking and yearning
to find
and to feel
fulfilled 

and in our searching let us remember:

 - - - "you can never get enough of what you don't need,
because what you don't need, CAN'T satisfy you." - - -

xoxo
kelsiefay






*http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJhyzqdzpnM