workin women

the world in which we live in is interesting these days.

and i feel as though it just keeps getting

more so

and

more so.

trends seem to change faster than

in the earlier days

around 1900 . . .

people thought something was severely wrong if

a married woman was employed. 

people would think her husband was,

"absent,

crippled,

or

incompetent."

obviously that's much different than work trends today.

the percentage of women in the workforce has increased from

25.4% in 1940

to

59.5% in 2008.

there is a lot of discrepancy about whether it is more 

beneficial

or

detrimental

to the lives of children if both parents work outside the home.

i know that for me, personally . . 

my mom was really present in my life all growing up.

she was a stay at home mom until i was 10 and my parents got divorced.

she then worked as a teacher

from when i was 10 to 13,

so essentially she was at work 

the same hours as

i was at school.

i knew i could always count on my mom

to be there when i needed her.

and i really was only alone for about an hour

with my little brother

while we would wait for mom to come home from her school.

i know this really affected me positively for the better.

- other factors to consider -

some pros for children when both parents work outside the home:

"-they learn self-sufficiency at an early age.

-even young children need their 'space.'

-parents can find caregivers who provide needed supervision and loving attention

-quality, not quantity, of time with parents is more crucial to the kids' development.

-parents making more $$ can provide kids with better quality of life."

some cons for children when both parents work outside the home:

"-kids feel they take second place to parents' careers. 

-they have inadequate supervision.

-they have too little time with their parents

-they don't have their mother's undivided time in their early years of life

-non-parental caregivers don't give kids the love and attention they need to thrive."

- "marriage and family - the quest for intimacy" 

i think for my future family i would ideally like to spend as much time with my children as possible.

if i could find a way to make money from working inside my home,

by doing eyelash extensions or something,

i would love that!

but i do know that different working and living situations

work better and worse

for different marriages and families.

so.

explore it for yourself 

and

involve God in all of your decisions.

He'll show you the way

always.

:)

xoxo

kelsie fay